Love.
Love is...
Love is... a diminishng concept, slowly and progressively consumed by what people of the modern world believe love is... a quick blowjob and a cup of coffee.
Where's the passion? If only I knew.
Today is Valentine's Day, which for many is a lame, commercialised oppertunity to twist the arm of their partner into doing pretty much anything, on the basis that if they don't do it, they can't love them as much as they say they do.
And boy, do the fat cats cash in on that!
I hate Valentine's Day. Why does there have to be a single day where people declare their love for their partner? For me, every single day is an oppertunity to remind your partner that they are loved, and to be honest, I don't think they should need reminding, as they should always know - There doesn't need to be a day set aside for it. What do people do for the other 364 days of the year?
And of course as I've already mentioned, people get 'Love' and 'Sex' horribly confused a lot.
Women, as far as I know, value love a lot more than men, and men seem to think that sex is what love is. Ergo, men think women want sex a lot - as much as they do themselves.
Poor disillusional people.
Unfortunately for both sides, women don't want the sex as much as men because they want the love, and get annoyed at being treated like a sex object, and men, because they think sex IS love, think that their partner doesn't love them.
On that subject, I'd just like to make a point...
Women get really annoyed when they feel like they're treated as sex objects, but then they're quite happy to parade around in next-to-nothing on a saturday night, and then go topless/completely naked in many top-shelf men's magazines...
Talk about mixed signals!
Guys don't exaclty help themselves - They can't keep their perverted eyes or hands to themselves. Really pisses me off as to how most guys only really want one thing.
Having said that, girls can be just as bad...
All the relationships I've ever been in ended because I wasn't ready to have sex with them, and they grew impatient and went elsewhere. They either ended it first and moved straight onto the next guy, or they cheated on me. I tell you - It knocks your confidence like nothing else. Nothing makes you feel more shit than knowing that the reason you're single is because no one can be bothered to wait for you. No one is prepared to give you the time...
... The thing is that 9 times out of 10, you'll hear about them moaning that the guy they got with was a complete dick, and treated them like shit...
I know someone who is absolutely fabulous - Great girl who deserves the best. She spent the last year or more in a relationship with a guy who basically treated her like a piece of meat - a piece of arm-candy.
We went out a few times without him and she told me on a few occasions that she wasn't happy. We had a chat about why this could be, and in essence he was a complete control freak - He didn't let her see certain people, he went through her phone, he deleted people from her phone book that he didn't like, or objected to her hanging out with, and if she wasn't home before a certain time, he'd kick off and give her a really hard time. I asked her 'Why are you with him? I'm not being funny but you could do so much better than that. You're a great girl with a heart of gold - Why are you wasting your time?', to which she responded 'I just can't be arsed with it. The hassle I'd get would just be too much...'
At this point I thought 'This isn't a relationship - It's emprisonment.'
Since then, after months of misery, she split up with him, and he bombarded her with abusive texts and phonecalls, and even called the police telling them that she did drugs.
Stupid, I know.
BUT...
Unfortunately, a fair number of people in her situation put themselves there by going for 'the bad boy' image, and then wonder why they got treated like a mug.
I'm sorry but if you're going to go for guys like that, then you have to expect to be treated like an accessory. Guys like that simply expect you to garnish the passenger seat of their car. To them, you're like a pair of furry dice. To be seen and not heard...
So I ask again...
Love is...?
Unfortunately, too many people don't know anymore, and it's about time we reminded ourselves, today as much as any other, what it really is about.
